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Single Parents are things wearing you down?

While being a single parent, I raised my children full-time, worked full-time, enrolled in college, did volunteer work for a charity organization and helped out at church. Oh, of course, don’t forget about pay all the bills. I cut that schedule in half because it was wearing me out. After raising my children and see them graduate from college, “I thought my work on earth had ended”. I was tired and ready to take a permanent nap.

 Graduation

Since, my ex-wife didn’t help me; I realized early on that I was on my own. That was painful but I managed to handle my responsibilities and move on with my children to raise.  She only showed me what she weren’t willing to do like raise kids. Her leaving us made it possible for me to raise my children in peace and with fewer distractions.

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Also, I could read books and learn how to help my children without her always complaining about me going about things based on education and spiritual intuition. It also eliminated unnecessary arguments and helped me with my mission to  raise healthy children. I’m not saying marriage is bad. I’m only saying have the right partner. And be willing to do your part as single-parent.

 Single Parent Juggle

Obviously it’s not healthy to take on too much and try to juggle more than you can handle. It’s wise to ask for the help you need. My family was good for babysitting when my children were small. But as they reached 8 and 9, I took my children everywhere I went. My alone time was after the children had gone to sleep.

Children and family members must be sensitive of your needs and respect you as a single parent because there are some drawback moments that put you on edge.

My friends never knew how on earth I seem to manage all the things I did. As much as I love my children. I didn’t realize how much raising kids had aged me and became somewhat uncomfortable at times.

Aging

The more you learn and the smarter you become. You will find ways to slow down aging. The key is to avoid things that create stress and depression from occurring.

Read all you can and listen to what children are saying. Also, listen for what they don’t say. You have to read between the lines to understand how to communicate well with them. This way you can have peace of mind and prevent unnecessary stress.

You deserve to live long and strong while raising your children. Just because you are a single parent doesn’t mean you need a partner. You just need to be wise and know your boundaries brothers and sisters. And don’t allow kids or people to wear you out and use you. People don’t know how you really feel behind the hard work and smile.

Live A Little

Therefore, every chance you get, spend quality time with yourself and treat yourself to a great time out on the town alone or with someone you enjoy. Before you know it they will be gone unto another life with the person they call important. Meanwhile, have balance and enjoy what you call important.Spend Time Having Fun

God bless you so keep reading and listening to your intuition.

 

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The Fatherless Project

The Fatherless Project

Lived in the projects

When our house had burned down, we could only afford to move into the projects. My brothers changed over-night after my parents separated. They went from carrying bibles in church to carrying guns in the hood. They ran away, start using drugs and became incarcerated due to an absent father. By the time I had reached age 8, my brothers had been in and out of jail at least 3 times. Two of my brothers spent hard time in the prison. One of them spent 20 years and my other brother did 10 years. But through prayer and hard work as a family, today, they are all doing well working and taking care of their families living productive and righteous lifestyles.

Look at the statistics on what occurs when the father is absent in the home.

STATISTICS

  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
  • 71% are high school dropouts
  • 68 % smoke, drink, or use drugs
  • And 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes

In Jail

My brother that was incarcerated for 20 years. My family started taking me the first 10 years to visit him at age 8. By 18, I was driving them the last 10 years to visit him. We would go in smiling glad to see him and leave out crying sad to leave him.

NOTE: My brothers were good boys growing up. They didn’t want to live like hoodlums. Sometimes people make mistakes and become examples in a negative way temporarily only to teach you what you shouldn’t being doing.

Wisdom: So don’t be quick to judge others just pray for them that God bless them to see truth and have the strength to pursue it.  

Pray for family members

Pray at all times because you never know when that special person or family member may decide to change. Don’t give up there is a brighter future ahead for you and yours.

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Don’t Take It Out On Children!

DON’T COME HOME ANGRY AND TAKE IT OUT ON YOUR CHILDREN:

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No matter how funny your money is or who made you mad at work. You must promise not to take it out on your family.

A Few Tips:

  • Go to the gym and exercise
  • Explain to your children you need some temporary space
  • Never whoop kids while angry

NOTE: Have a cooling down period. Get it together before you walk in the door. Breathe and think about how you want your evening to end. Then pursue best you know how to be a good parent. But try to have self-control at all times.