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Where Are The Fathers?

Where Are Fathers

• Did you know that Approximately 82.2% of single parents are mothers, and
• 17.8% of single parents (approximately 1 in 6) are fathers

There was an article in the paper asking what’s important to people in America? A group of concerned Americans responded by saying something like this: If you wanted to make the world a better place–how could you do it?

  • When they asked businessmen, they said we need more strong politicians & businessman in society. True!
    • When they asked a preacher, he said we need more church members for outreach. True!
    • When they asked a principal, he said we need more good teachers in the classroom. True!
    • But when they asked a child, they said we need more fathers. Let us pause and pray for the increase of fathers!

Prov 13:20 He that walk with wise men shall be wise but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.

Come a board Dad, let’s show America there are a fleet of great dads taking care of their children and helping other parents with theirs.
Quote: What you learn for yourself is a lesson! But teaching children the right way is a generational blessing!

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Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

Psalm 127:3-5 Sons and daughters are a heritage from the Lord, children are a reward from him.

Joshua 24:15 But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.”

Best dads in America, let’s all rise to the occasion! It’s worth it!

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Live Before Marriage

Married Too Soon

Married To Soon
Marrying too soon causes a broken heart and many disappointments for an individual if not prepared.
Statistics:
• 30% of those who marry before 18 divorce within 5 yrs. and
• 50% divorce within 10 yrs.

NOTE: Because they are not fully mature.

DIVORCE

Divorce
Divorce left me with 2 lovely children and a broken heart. What an interesting mix. I admonish anyone who gets married be sure to prepare yourself for marriage as much as you know how. Also, make sure you have what it takes to make a strong attempt to have a healthy relationship with that someone of special significance. And reach for a life-long partner with the same marital intentions.

CUSTODY BATTLE

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RECEIVED CUSTODY:
• NO MORE PLAYING WEEKEND SANTA CLAUS
• FINANCIAL CHALLENGES
• BEING AN EXAMPLE
• HELPING WITH HOMEWORK
• DON’T’ COME HOME ANGRY
• SPEND QUALITY TIME
• PRIVATE SCHOOLS

NOTE: Judges will decide what’s in the best interests of the children before placing a child. So be prepared for custody and be committed to support your children best you know how my friend.

Thank God I was able to make it through single-parenting and help my son and daughter to become successful adults. Also, remember to enjoy your life before you marry anyone!

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Single Parents are things wearing you down?

While being a single parent, I raised my children full-time, worked full-time, enrolled in college, did volunteer work for a charity organization and helped out at church. Oh, of course, don’t forget about pay all the bills. I cut that schedule in half because it was wearing me out. After raising my children and see them graduate from college, “I thought my work on earth had ended”. I was tired and ready to take a permanent nap.

 Graduation

Since, my ex-wife didn’t help me; I realized early on that I was on my own. That was painful but I managed to handle my responsibilities and move on with my children to raise.  She only showed me what she weren’t willing to do like raise kids. Her leaving us made it possible for me to raise my children in peace and with fewer distractions.

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Also, I could read books and learn how to help my children without her always complaining about me going about things based on education and spiritual intuition. It also eliminated unnecessary arguments and helped me with my mission to  raise healthy children. I’m not saying marriage is bad. I’m only saying have the right partner. And be willing to do your part as single-parent.

 Single Parent Juggle

Obviously it’s not healthy to take on too much and try to juggle more than you can handle. It’s wise to ask for the help you need. My family was good for babysitting when my children were small. But as they reached 8 and 9, I took my children everywhere I went. My alone time was after the children had gone to sleep.

Children and family members must be sensitive of your needs and respect you as a single parent because there are some drawback moments that put you on edge.

My friends never knew how on earth I seem to manage all the things I did. As much as I love my children. I didn’t realize how much raising kids had aged me and became somewhat uncomfortable at times.

Aging

The more you learn and the smarter you become. You will find ways to slow down aging. The key is to avoid things that create stress and depression from occurring.

Read all you can and listen to what children are saying. Also, listen for what they don’t say. You have to read between the lines to understand how to communicate well with them. This way you can have peace of mind and prevent unnecessary stress.

You deserve to live long and strong while raising your children. Just because you are a single parent doesn’t mean you need a partner. You just need to be wise and know your boundaries brothers and sisters. And don’t allow kids or people to wear you out and use you. People don’t know how you really feel behind the hard work and smile.

Live A Little

Therefore, every chance you get, spend quality time with yourself and treat yourself to a great time out on the town alone or with someone you enjoy. Before you know it they will be gone unto another life with the person they call important. Meanwhile, have balance and enjoy what you call important.Spend Time Having Fun

God bless you so keep reading and listening to your intuition.

 

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The Fatherless Project

The Fatherless Project

Lived in the projects

When our house had burned down, we could only afford to move into the projects. My brothers changed over-night after my parents separated. They went from carrying bibles in church to carrying guns in the hood. They ran away, start using drugs and became incarcerated due to an absent father. By the time I had reached age 8, my brothers had been in and out of jail at least 3 times. Two of my brothers spent hard time in the prison. One of them spent 20 years and my other brother did 10 years. But through prayer and hard work as a family, today, they are all doing well working and taking care of their families living productive and righteous lifestyles.

Look at the statistics on what occurs when the father is absent in the home.

STATISTICS

  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
  • 71% are high school dropouts
  • 68 % smoke, drink, or use drugs
  • And 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes

In Jail

My brother that was incarcerated for 20 years. My family started taking me the first 10 years to visit him at age 8. By 18, I was driving them the last 10 years to visit him. We would go in smiling glad to see him and leave out crying sad to leave him.

NOTE: My brothers were good boys growing up. They didn’t want to live like hoodlums. Sometimes people make mistakes and become examples in a negative way temporarily only to teach you what you shouldn’t being doing.

Wisdom: So don’t be quick to judge others just pray for them that God bless them to see truth and have the strength to pursue it.  

Pray for family members

Pray at all times because you never know when that special person or family member may decide to change. Don’t give up there is a brighter future ahead for you and yours.

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Grandmothers and mothers are important!

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HOUSE BURNED DOWN

Have you ever needed to be rescued? Well my family did. Who could be better than a grandmother or a mother? My family knows and so can yours. The first chapter in my book titled “The Blueprint For Survival As A Single Parent”, talks about how important grandmothers are to a family. Also, why they should be honoured and loved for their parental bravery.

When my mother was pregnant with me our house burned down. She ran in one night and saved my father and siblings from burning in the fire while they were sleep.

She became our hero and everyone gives her credit for rescuing her family. Today my mother is 81 years old and is still the hero in our family since that day.